What If?

Your thoughts become the results you get in your life, they can make or break, destroy or restore, the choice is yours.

What if we lived in a world at peace with one another?

What if we didn’t worry so much what others thought of us?

What if we didn’t get so hung up on whether we fitted in?

What if we chose to be content with who we are?

What if we turned off the sound track to rejection in our heads?

What would the world look like then?

How much more peaceful would it be?

What would you say if I told you we could develop a habit to gain more peace?

This is far more than a daily discipline. It’s a continual training of the mind, a constant choice not to judge, a nonstop weeding of our thoughts and a consistent dedication to love and live in total peace.

A habit can be formed though, just the same way as we’ve developed a habit of jumping to conclusions, judging people’s behaviours, critiquing their opinions and choices we can switch that habit through a unbroken practise of discipline.

These 3 tips have been life changing for me and I’m sure if you are motivated enough to change your thought process and develop more peace in your life they will work for you too.

1. Keep a thought journal.

Journal everything over a period of a week. Don’t try and change it, don’t beat yourself up just write everything down.

2. Track it

Choose a quiet time to look over the journal, what stands out? Looks at the thoughts you had, where did they come from? Why did you think that? What were the triggers?

3. Replace it.

Take the thoughts and turn them on their head, change your perspective, what could you have thought differently? If it was an issue with someone, how could you have empathised and seen this another way? How can you turn a negative into a positive?

Most of all what does the Word say about it? Seek out the the truth what does the Bible say?

God wants to talk to us about every part of our lives, even the bits we try to hide. His word is there to guide us, He can tell us His thoughts on our thoughts and most of all He can change us from the inside out.

This process is something that you can train yourself to do every day, with every thought, it’s habit forming. But we can’t form habit without an awareness of the issue.

This has been a powerful experience for me, I’ve identified root causes of inadequacy issues stemming right back to my childhood, used regularly and developed into a discipline it can be life changing. What’s stopping you? Give it a go!

Freedom Of Choice.

We have a choice to make, every second of every day, that choice will produce freedom or fear, the choice is ours.

I look around daily and sometimes it breaks my heart to see people everywhere tearing one another down. The world has taught us that to get anywhere in life someone else must suffer. In workplaces we see people clambering over one another to get that promotion and pay rise, moms competing with one another over the growth and talent of their children, but what breaks me the most is when I see followers of Christ in a sibling rivalry that makes them despise one another instead of lifting each other up.

This is not what God intends for us!

Over the past few weeks in our Bible study group we’ve been looking at the 9 fruits of the spirit. The Holy Spirit spoke quite sternly to me about these gifts, they are all choices, choices that we have to consciously make every moment of everyday, examining every thought and action.

Here is chapter 5 of Galatians we see a list of sinful cravings we all battle with daily;

“The cravings of the self-life are obvious: Sexual immorality, lustful thoughts, pornography, chasing after things instead of God, manipulating others, hatred of those who get in your way, senseless arguments, resentment when others are favored, temper tantrums, angry quarrels, only thinking of yourself, being in love with your own opinions, being envious of the blessings of others, murder, uncontrolled addictions, wild parties, and all other similar behavior. Haven’t I already warned you that those who use their “freedom” for these things will not inherit the kingdom realm of God!”

‭‭Galatians‬ ‭5:19-21‬ ‭TPT‬‬

I don’t know about you but when I read this list of self-life cravings I feel a little convicted!

I’ve chased after things that aren’t of God, I’ve been manipulating, I’ve resented others, I’ve chosen to make something of myself, to put myself on a pedestal, I’ve certainly been a lover of my own opinion and even worse I’ve torn down people in order to make myself feel better.

This is what I love about the Word of God!

Jesus challenges me to examine myself, my heart and my motive. There are so many things I choose to walk away from because I believe that they will produce in me one of the characteristics in the passage above and not produce the fruit that God desires for me to glorify Him as His creation.

We must always be examining our thoughts, pulling out those weeds that will produce a self-life craving. By doing so regularly we are renewing our minds and replacing those lies with Gods truth.

Making a choice to replace the self-life craving with fruit, blessing others, and receiving the promises God gave us for us to lead a full and satisfying life that gives glory to Him. Why wouldn’t we want to glorify Him? Look at the promises He’s given us;

“But the fruit produced by the Holy Spirit within you is divine love in all its varied expressions:

joy that overflows,

peace that subdues,

patience that endures,

kindness in action,

a life full of virtue,

faith that prevails,

gentleness of heart,

and strength of spirit.

Never set the law above these qualities, for they are meant to be limitless.”

‭‭Galatians‬ ‭5:22-23‬ ‭TPT‬‬

We literally have a freedom of choice that will free us from our selves, help us to live in His peace, His joy, His love, producing His character and blessing people along the way!

My prayer today is that more and more people find this freedom through our choices and find a truly satisfying relationship with the One who created them. In Jesus name.

Love and blessings,

But I don’t want to!!! 

What do you do when you know something is right, but that means you have to do something you don’t want to?

Last week hubby and I were having a little disagreement, it was really silly, like most arguments it had started from nothing, we were arguing the same point but from our own perspectives, the devil had a field day with finger pointing and accusations. I had taken something that hubby had said and listened to that negative voice and turned it into something it just wasn’t, I was being defensive and very angry!

The trouble was I thought I was right, and I had no need whatsoever to apologise when in actual fact I was wrong! I wasn’t wrong because the point I had raised was wrong, I was wrong because I’d let into the enemy and lost my self-control, I had lost the ability to look at what my husband was saying from his perspective and as a result I was sitting in my room with a face like the little girl in the picture above!

I love how kind, forgiving and nurturing God is in these situations, I prayed about it and my prayer went something like:

Lord, Please let him see how unreasonable he is being, I can’t believe he thinks I need to do more, how much more can I do?! Please tell him to stop being so bossy…. blah blah blah.

Following my prayer I had a chapter of the Bible come to mind, Proverbs 21,

1- In the Lord’s hand, the king’s heart is a stream of water that he channels to all that please him.

2 – A person may think that their own ways are right, but the Lord weighs the heart.

3 – To do what is right and just is more acceptable to the Lord than sacrifice.

4 – Haughty eyes and a proud hear – the unplowed fields of the wicked – produce sin.

5- The plans of the dilligent lead to profit as surely as haste leads to poverty.

I’m thinking here, yes Lord, this is exactly what I am trying to say! You know I’m right and you are confirming to me that I am! Then ………. my eyes jumped forward a couple of verses to 9:

Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife.

See, we were both right in our own minds, we both see things differently, He made us both unique to our purpose, life would be pretty boring if we were, all the same, wouldn’t it?

God wants us both to take our views and work together in harmony, Colossians 2:2 says;

My goal is that they may be encouraged in heart and united in love, so that they may have the full riches of complete understanding, in order that they may know the mystery of God, namely, Christ.

We have the strength to do this by His Grace, through His Spirit we can walk the way He asks us to, but of course, this does mean that we must deny ourselves, reserve our judgements and trust His course of action, which at this time meant that I was to get up and go downstairs to apologise for losing my patience, being quick to anger and not using my self-control! Thankfully, we had a visitor which meant there was time to calm down, relax and take some time before I approached the dreaded task! Once I was willing God started to intervene and His Grace meant that this task would be a little less daunting, He always works things out for our good.

Our visitor left and I made us some lunch ready to sit down again and discuss things like adults, as it happened by God’s mercy for my willing heart He had also been doing a work in hubby, he also felt he should apologise, so we both said our “sorry” kissed and made up, then went on to discuss our business in a fashion that pleases God, which I am pleased to say worked out all around and we are back on track.

Will we argue about it again? Of course we will, but God will again patiently work through with us what to do in order to put things right, He is patient, He is loving, He wants the best for His children and He will do this 7 x 7 times, meaning to infinity because He wants us to live life in abundance, with His peace, His joy to radiate love to one another.

 

 

 

 

Open Doors

How do we know when or if to walk through a door of opportunity?


How do we know when or if to walk through a door of opportunity?

When I first came to know Jesus I had many plans, mainly for myself I admit, I was going to build a huge marketing agency and earn lots of money, well it wasn’t quite that shallow but all the same I had BIG plans.

I was stopped completely in my tracks by the Lord and I entered a period of stillness, at the time I thought this was laziness, all of my creative faculties started to shut down and I found that I couldn’t think, all I could do was turn to the word God and discover.

I soon started to discover Who I was, Why I was here, and What I needed to do, BUT, I had no idea how that fitted into my previous plans. So there I was, still wandering in the wilderness with no direction, no inspiration and no creativity.

I wasn’t listening! God asked me to start to delve into my old plans and compare them to the discoveries I had made about WHO He said I was, WHY I was here and WHAT I was sent to do.

I soon discovered a pattern, a very unique pattern. It was unique because this pattern was displayed in all I had done my whole life, from a tender age of nursery school right up to this present point in my life. Those business plans I had were NOT about making myself money, they were about helping others to achieve their goals, from the customers I served to the staff I had planned to employ, each element was about other people and how I could help them to achieve what they wanted.

Proverbs 16:9, tells us that In our hearts we plan our course, but the Lord establishes the steps.

No wonder there was a pattern, it wasn’t the actual industry, job, or physical task that would be my calling, it’s what that physical thing would enable me to do in the name of Jesus. I was sent to encourage, inspire and teach people that through Christ we can achieve all things!

Take delight in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart.- Proverbs 37:4

Once I discovered this I soon started to recognise doors that began to open, not just in my business but at home, in my marriage, in my husband’s business, at church, with my friends, even this blog. I just had to be courageous enough to step out and say what I knew God wanted me to say or do what He wanted me to do.We just have to be bold enough and brave enough to walk through that open door.

Receiving this courage comes from renewing our minds with His Word, it’s there to give us confidence that in Him all things are possible. He tells us in John 10:10 I came that they may have life, and have it abundantly. He doesn’t want us to be miserable!

1 Corinthians 16:9 because a great door for effective work has opened to me, and there are many who oppose me.

The words above from Paul tell us that it won’t be a smooth ride, but irrespective of the opposition he faced, he continued to move on, continued to walk with God and live out what he knew in confidence the Lord wanted him to do.

Since these revelations, I’ve been so much more comfortable in my life with making decisions, and when I make those that are aligned with God’s will he confirms I’m on the right track with His wonderful favour, I feel peaceful and joyful inside and I have a consistent smile on my face. Life is just easier with God’s word in it. Life is just easier with God in it!

My prayer today is that anyone that may be struggling with their calling in life, or recognising God’s open doors, that they feel the spirit of God fall upon them to inspire action.

I pray, Father that each and every person that is questioning a decision right now, that they feel your presence, they hear your voice and you give them courage and confidence in you and your word.

I ask you, Father, to reveal to them their calling in life, give them desires in their hearts that won’t let go until they act upon them, and when they do Lord I ask for fulfilment, comfort and peace to outpour into their spirit.

Lord I pray that they seek your will and glorify your name by living a life filled with abundant joy.

In Jesus name, Amen.

 

 

 

 

Why do you have faith?

Someone once asked me how I can believe in God when the world is so messed up, this is why I do!

One of my characteristics is positivity,  I’m always looking on the bright side of life and I love to encourage others when I’m around someone that’s negative it has a tendency to frustrate me!

One day a conversation arose with a lady who was struggling one day to understand death and morbidity in the world, she said to me “If God so loves us, why do we have to see all this pain and suffering in the world?”

My answer to that is simple. 

We have faith, we believe in the unseen, we know that we are loved and made with great purpose despite what is going on in the world around us. The Bible tells us we are in the world not of the world, Jesus told us it wouldn’t be easy, but what is promised to us is eternal life, not only that, John 10:10 tells us he came so that we might live a life of abundance and joy, choosing to love Jesus and accept His gift of peace despite the outward circumstances helps me to deal with anything that the world throws at me.

God so loved the world that He gave! Jesus went to the cross for our sin, He didn’t just die, He was tortured, and He took the burden of all of our sin, how can I repay Him for that sacrifice?

Well, I can repay Him by accepting this gift. You wouldn’t receive a birthday present and leave it in it’s pretty wrapping paper, would you?

I’m going to take this gift with both hands, live my life boldly, courageously and tell everyone the good news, no matter what is happening in the world, having the peace of Jesus will pull us through it, and I don’t care who thinks I’m bonkers, hopefully, the way I live my life will help them to see just how much they need Jesus in theirs!

 

Walking in alignment with God.

Over the last six to seven months, many things have been manifesting in our family life, things that have been a real challenge, we had some big decisions to make, and if I’m honest I could have quite happily remained paralysed on occasions, stuck in the same old, the fear was just too much to face.

walking-inOver the last six to seven months, many things have been manifesting in our family life, things that have been a real challenge, we had some big decisions to make, and if I’m honest I could have quite happily remained paralysed on occasions, stuck in the same old, the fear was just too much to face.

Lucky for us we have a God that will deal with our fears head on when we seek His perfect Will for our lives.

Knowing there were changes to make we started to pray over the situations causing the challenges, we prayed long and hard for what seemed like forever! There were times I thought God wasn’t listening, there were times I thought He didn’t like me much, there were many moments I prayed with what my mom might call attitude, you know the stance – when your arms are folded, your bottom lip is sticking out and you have that tone in voice, the tone that says, I know you don’t want to answer my prayer and I know it’s for my own good but all the same I’m asking anyway, with an eye roll and a big TUT at the end?!

Despite sometimes wanting to give up we continued.

After around 5 months, we started to get answers, albeit they weren’t the ones we thought we would get. These answers were going to push us out of our comfort zone and were to have us confront fears we had carried with us most of our lives. In actual fact these answers had been there for some time, we just didn’t think they were from God, they seemed to make perfect sense but we thought they were of the flesh not of God. He was showing us that we had done the right thing and He wanted the best for us, He loved us and wanted us to flourish for the glory of His Kingdom.

I thought that a lot of the complications we had were a result of our own flesh and bad attitude, I thought that I had a hardened heart and it was my actions causing all of this discomfort. As a result, I was asking God to help me to change, when in actual fact what God wanted to do was to change the situation for us. Although this wasn’t going to be easy. It meant we had to do some things that would cause some discomfort, face our fears and be courageous.

One of the problems I’ve always had is thinking badly of myself, always blaming myself for things that go wrong, never really giving myself a break. Thankfully God doesn’t want that, he wants us to love ourselves just as he loves us. We are fearfully and wonderfully made, in His image, for a very unique purpose to bring glory to His Kingdom. This, in turn, gives us the ability to love others with His wonderful love and encouragement, and when we really seek His will for our lives He uncovers some miraculous things for our future, things we least expect – But, we have to action them.

Even though this time was tough and I could have quite easily turned my back on God, buried my head in the sand and left myself wide open for the enemy to take control, I chose to take back His territory and declare that in Jesus name I would walk on – No matter what!

Things can be hard, but as long as we continue to lean on our Father and rely not upon our own understanding all things will come together for good, no matter how awful it may seem we must trust him in all we do.

I’m very happy to report that is all now behind us and these situations are now testimonies we can use to encourage others as well as ourselves, we can hold on to them for the rest of our days and remind ourselves when struggles arise that He came through and took control, showed us what to do, and in our obedience, He has richly blessed us with many things to confirm we did the right thing.

Thank you, Lord, for your wonderful patience and understanding, Father, thank you, that despite our not listening, You always persevere and show us in your loving gentle way that all will be ok. Thank you, for always being there, and preparing the way for us despite our shortcomings and our disobedience, Lord thank you, for always waiting with your arms wide open for us to arrive, no matter how long that may take. In Jesus name, I pray that we will forever be aligned to your perfect will. Amen.

Perfect Love. 


The flight was delayed 6 hours, the door to the plane was frozen shut, in the UK with quite a bit of snow to look forward to.

I wasn’t looking forward to going home. Having spent from 26th December until this day in the beautiful hot sunshine, surrounded by Gods breathtaking sights, sea, sand and lots of lovely reading material.

Little did I know … God, had something much better planned in the big freeze back home.

I arrived home early in the morning and the place was thick with snow, the drive back from the airport took forever, I walked into my 2 bed townhouse that I shared with my friend, the house was hotter than it had been in Dominican, my housemate was a big fan of 30 degrees on the heating thermostat!

After lots of visiting family and storytelling of my adventures, that night I was due to meet my destiny. This meeting was a perfect plan that I had no idea about.

It was a God appointment.

Back in November, I had moved back to my hometown, following a rough few years away. The street that I had moved into also was the home of someone God wanted me to meet… again. Someone that I had no idea would impact my life as he did.

On 10th January 2010, I was reluctantly going on a date! A date that had been arranged following a phone call made on New Year’s Eve, a call that my spirit had prompted me to make, from thousands of miles away and a 4 hour time difference!

The guy that I was meeting was someone I had known for some time, 10 years to be precise, we had met when I was 17, he used to hang around me a lot back then and I had no idea that he liked me. In between then and now life happened and had been pretty cruel too.

But, God still had a perfect plan to unfold.

Following that date night, we went on to have a huge impact on each other’s lives, we built one another up, and together we became people that previously we had only ever dreamed we could be!

We have just celebrated 7 years together and I’m happy to say we have a lovely life, with 2 boys, another on the way, work that we both love doing, some wonderful friends and family around us and a beautiful home.

This scripture is a perfect description of the plan that God had for us.

That day, He evolved something quite magical, from 2 people that prior to this appointment were filled with misery, sin and fear.

He united us with the knowledge that were made for one another. 

We love each other dearly and have Jesus at the centre of our marriage which makes it perfect in every way. Together we have no fear, we have perfect love. 💕💕

1 John 4:18 – There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear because fear involves punishment, and the one who fears is not perfected in love. 



💕💕💕🙏 Amen 🙏💕💕💕